As bestselling author, Sean Covey says, “We become what we repeatedly do.” Advisors who have been helping their clients through the various stages of change will (undoubtedly!) be very proud of their clients for reaching the Action stage, when the client is finally able to take action on making whatever change is needed to implement their financial plan, but they will also recognize that developing habits in the Maintenance stage is what will ultimately get their clients the rest of the way to their financial goals.
Yet, sustaining new actions until they become habits can be a challenge for most individuals. Clients who may have started out strong may find themselves unable to sustain new habits that once seemed so easy, as continually and consciously sticking to new habits can be exhausting. Accordingly, it is very normal (and common!) for us to ‘mess up’ by giving in to temptation or, when things get harder than we had prepared for, by simply taking a much-needed break. These temporary setbacks to maintaining habits are referred to as “lapses”, and helping clients recognize the triggers that may cause a lapse and developing tools that enable them to deal with those triggers can be a powerfully effective strategy for advisors to help clients stay the course and successfully reach the Maintenance stage.
Fortunately, The Transtheoretical Model of Change offers advisors a framework to help clients reach the Maintenance stage, when their sustained actions finally become regular habits. First and foremost, advisors can help clients by normalizing lapses, which will help clients to acknowledge them, discuss what is happening and how they are feeling, and finally to recover from them when they do occur. Because when lapses happen, they can make the client feel awful and demoralized simply by having to face the fact that they lapsed, which can be a powerful deterrent to maintaining habits.
Second, advisors can help clients to increase their financial self-efficacy by finding opportunities to explicitly recognize their growth and ability to sustain change. Importantly, while advisors cannot build up financial self-efficacy for their clients – the client alone develops self-efficacy – they can support the client by recognizing their efforts and offering honest, heart-felt compliments (which go a long way!).