It’s difficult to give financial advice to others if you don’t have your own financial house in order, first; not that anyone – including financial planners – is “perfect” when it comes to their own money, but in the end, if financial advisors can’t even follow the advice and go through the process themselves, it suggests that, at the least, there’s room for improvement in the advice itself or how it’s delivered.
In fact, arguably, one of the best ways for financial advisors to really understand what it takes to give good financial advice is to better understand their own financial challenges and what they need to change to improve their own situation… akin to how therapists become better at providing therapy by going through the process themselves.
Money exercises that financial advisors can go through (by themselves, perhaps for future use with clients as well) include the Money Egg (sketching out some of your earliest money memories, reflecting on whether they were positive and negative, and considering how those embedded money memories may be impacting your decisions today), assessing your Money Scripts (do you tend towards Money Vigilance, Money Status, Money Worship, or Money Avoidance?), and considering how your prior money experiences may have created Money Narratives that now impact (or even burden) your everyday decisions (e.g., my advisory firm is a reflection of my self-worth, so I have to keep growing my firm to grow my status… even if I really don’t financially need a larger firm at all!).
Ultimately, many (or even most) financial advisors may feel uncomfortable doing such deep self-reflection on their own financial situation and may find it awkward and intimidating to get help and outside advice around their own money challenges. Yet at the end, when clients are asked to do the same things themselves with a financial advisor, arguably going through the process as an advisor provides a good perspective (and perhaps even empathy-building) for the stress and emotional turmoil that clients may be feeling in the financial planning process as well!